Rewriting PLR articles – a living example

Today we will talk about rewriting PLR (i.e. Private Label Rights) articles. Let’s just be brief, shall we? Let’s look at an original article, along with a rewrite.

7 Steps on How to Save a Relationship – Original

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Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for her. Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the children’s needs and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs? Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? Here’s how to save a relationship.

First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth saving. While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work. Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back in, there is little that can be done.

Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or stay in a marriage because of the children. But that is not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem is the problem itself.

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse. While most people look at the affair as the problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from starting with guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.

When you start to deal with core issues and not symptoms, you can save the relationship.

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. Hold your partner’s had when you are talking about your problems as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. When y

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our partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete steps on your action plan. If you don’t spend time together like you used to, plan a date night every week. Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. And, then do it.

Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward only to take one step back. There is going to be both laughter and tears going forward. Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

Is your relationship worth saving? If so, I’ve described in this article how to save a relationship.

How to save a relationship in 7 easy steps (rewrite)

Introduction

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Imagine a blue-collar worker named Jim. He works long hours. His wife Liz is confused. He’s never at home when she needs him. Should she have an affair?

How about Jim? Imagine how he feels. Liz puts the children first and Jim’s needs take second fiddle.

Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved?

Here’s how – Step 1: Can it be saved?

Can this relationship be saved? Is it worth saving? That’s the sixty-four dollar question. It’s done with a little hard work and both parties chipping in. But what if Jim jumps ship and bangs his secretary? Or Liz has an affair with the mailman? If one person closes the door and doesn’t reopen it – coming back – the relationship is like living in the Dead Sea.

Step 2 – Find out why you stay

There are two main reasons to stay. Either for the children’s sake or convenience. Perhaps you go to the local greasy spoon because it’s in walking distance. Not became the food is good or the service is great.

But here’s the question to ask. It’s like the Dirty Harry movie. Do you feel lucky? Or in this case, do you feel like saving the relationship? It takes commitment by both parties.

Step 3 – Identify the problems

Seems like a silly thing to do. Imagine going to a doctor. You say you have heart pain? What does the doctor do?

Run some tests. Perhaps blood work or an EKG. Get to the cause.

Don’t be like the patient who complains of a pain. Yet has no idea what’s causing it.

Underline this sentence. The symptoms are not the problem itself.

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Got it?

Step 4 – find the core issue

Let’s go back to where Liz has an affair with the mailman. This might cause a break up. Yet what is the deeper problem?

Is it the affair? Of course not! It could be the lack of intimacy with Jim.

You must deal with the lack of intimacy.

See what happens here? Intimacy is missing, right? Along comes the milkman. He reminds Liz of a major action movie star. She gets the mailman to whisper sweet nothings in her ear.

Step 5 – Pinpoint the problems.

Next it’s off to the bedroom. Perhaps Jim can stop this. Maybe he makes Liz feel guilty. But this might backfire. Another problem might pop up. Perhaps Liz goes to the local all male strip club with her girlfriends. Or Jim surfs porn sites on his computer.

Let’s get back to the man having heart pain. He never cornered the cause, until he saw the doctor. Perhaps the couple needs to see a marriage counselor, psychologist, or spiritual figure (i.e. Rabbi, Priest, Minister, or Guru). Remember this: The symptoms are not the problem itself.

You must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship.

Step 6 – Deal with core issues

You can save a relationship. But you must start to deal with core issues and not symptoms, you can save the relationship.

So you identified the core issue or issues. Now what?

Share your thoughts. How do you feel? Listen to what your partner says. Identify with their concerns.

How do you feel? How does your partner feel? Perhaps you can hold your partner’s hand when they talk. It let’s them know you’re concerned. This helps kindle the emotional fire you may be feeling. Cool it with the water of understanding.

Your partner might talk about things that hurt you. They don’t really want to hurt you.

They want to improve the relationship.

Step 7 – Create the action plan

Sound simple? It really is! Detail the problems in the relationship. Then create an action plan.

What’s in the action plan? Concrete steps to solve the problems. Let’s look at some examples:

  • Perhaps you don’t spend time together like you used to. Plan a date night every week.
  • Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday.
  • If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed – just talking to one another.

Final Step – Realize everything is an ongoing process

Realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. Remember the old saying: take two steps forward only to take one step back. Remember that roses and thorns grow on the same bush. You will find both laughter and tears going forward. The thorns hurt. The roses smell lovely.

Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

Is your relationship worth saving? Following the 7 step process will help save it.

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